tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post139680438252012057..comments2023-10-16T09:53:51.621-04:00Comments on Single Guy Money: Married Folks and MoneyMoney Crashershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01458978398655534075noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-81534436986047140042008-03-06T23:39:00.000-05:002008-03-06T23:39:00.000-05:00That's pretty messed up in my book. If you and yo...That's pretty messed up in my book. If you and your spouse are arguing about money, there's a problem and you need to fix it. Getting a secret account to maintain your habits (whatever they may be) ain't gonna fix your marriage. Talking about it isn't insurance that everything will be all right but at least it leads to more openness. That's always a good thing.<BR/><BR/>Jerry<BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-75701233724959031562008-01-26T11:16:00.000-05:002008-01-26T11:16:00.000-05:00NO WAY! Fastest way to divorce, I guarantee it. ...NO WAY! Fastest way to divorce, I guarantee it. Money is what causes divorce. Fights about money. Infidelity isn't even the top reason. MONEY.<BR/><BR/>I can't imagine being so dishonest about money. Trust me I do sometimes not mention what I bought, but if asked outright?<BR/><BR/>Marriage is not always easy because it takes work. Also we only have a joint account, I can't imagine having Living Almost Largehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594523259748625997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-50037889330892666992007-09-08T04:02:00.000-04:002007-09-08T04:02:00.000-04:00Having secret accounts is not good. Having separat...Having secret accounts is not good. Having separate accounts is fine. Every relationship is different and people need to do what works, not what theoretically might be the best solution.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-41440468549924995542007-09-07T20:21:00.000-04:002007-09-07T20:21:00.000-04:00Happily married, 13 years, one bank account. Neve...Happily married, 13 years, one bank account. Never, never, never marry someone that has different views about saving/spending money than you do. Or someone that you can't work things out honestly with. I see a huge red flag with your friend. I'd hate to be in a marriage where I couldn't relax.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13651213981994174520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-83148169909250621072007-09-06T23:23:00.000-04:002007-09-06T23:23:00.000-04:00Wow! I cannot imagine keeping an account that my ...Wow! I cannot imagine keeping an account that my husband doesn't know about. I think there's probably more wrong than just the finances.<BR/><BR/>My husband and I have all joint accounts. We allocate some "blow money" for each of us from within those accounts.<BR/><BR/>Secret accounts. I'm still shocked!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-7752668420258466742007-09-06T11:24:00.000-04:002007-09-06T11:24:00.000-04:00I think that this is definitely a sign of trouble....I think that this is definitely a sign of trouble. I would call it a marker of the future - trust and honesty are the largest things we bring to marriage. Going in with this huge "double life" is most likely going to encourage more secrets.<BR/><BR/>We are joint on all accounts. Except retirment accounts of course. We carry cash and credit cards for any "private or surprise" purchases and Denise Mallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13253101883627114010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-52254398720755870382007-09-06T07:46:00.000-04:002007-09-06T07:46:00.000-04:00This is somewhat common, however, its really, real...This is somewhat common, however, its really, really problematic. What this reflects is a lack of unity in the marriage. I recently read an article (I forget where, I have too many input sources I guess) that said that most financial counselors recommend this and most marriage counselors recommend you don't do it :)<BR/><BR/>I think its safe to say that solid finances and solid marriages can beAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-14626487834054835612007-09-06T00:22:00.000-04:002007-09-06T00:22:00.000-04:00I doubt that most married couple have "secret acco...I doubt that most married couple have "secret accounts". Although I guess if they were really secret, we wouldn't know. We have his, hers & ours accounts, but of course we know about them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-18974882287947174642007-09-05T19:21:00.000-04:002007-09-05T19:21:00.000-04:00I thought most couples just had 1 joint account an...I thought most couples just had 1 joint account and individual savings account. When I get married, I am not sure how I would do it.SingleGuyMoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03525952724884778798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-78823156833139046472007-09-05T16:46:00.000-04:002007-09-05T16:46:00.000-04:00The only time I hide money is when I'm purchasing ...The only time I hide money is when I'm purchasing my wife a present. We have 2 bank accounts, one is our day-to-day funds and the other is our emergency fund. If I'm purchasing something online, I'll use the emergency fund one so she doesn't see the purchase right away and get the clue I'm getting her something. By the time we look at that account together (monthly), she's already gotten the Sick of Debthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08823916489556418817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-615490013609764120.post-22711959196382034772007-09-05T16:17:00.000-04:002007-09-05T16:17:00.000-04:00If that what it takes to lessen arguments so be it...If that what it takes to lessen arguments so be it.<BR/><BR/>Most married couple have 1 acct for him and 1 acct for her and then they have a joint acct for household bills.<BR/><BR/>My husband and I have two joint accts 1 for bills and 1 for miscellanous---fun/entertainment/food/gas etcL. Marie Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08742625250214975088noreply@blogger.com